Wedding Prep

It seems like when you’re a bride-to-be or when you get engaged, the whole world will be asking you questions like these:

“So when’s your wedding?”
“How’s your prep?”
“Buying house or not?”
“Are you inviting me for dinner/to be your sister?”

Okay so no one’s actually really shameless enough to ask the last, HAHAHAHA.

But yes these questions pop up so often and some people are shocked when my replies are:

“Still far”
“Don’t know yet.”
“Nothing leh.”
“我不知道”

LOL.

That’s because…

1. The Date is not fixed
I only realized that the “law” was that, the guy’s side of the family chooses the wedding date, no questions asked.
I also only knew a few day ago, that choosing a wrong date/time could mean disaster for the family of either side. (According to my grandma and our chinese/religious beliefs, that is.)
So, in order to let every one feel at ease, I’ve decided to consult my grandma for a good date, and she needs to wait for the 通書 to be out which is published yearly in july/august and henceforth…..

2. The dinner is not booked.
Another big problem. Dinners are usually booked 1 year in advance, and the original given date was May from Yang’s mum. This means that I have to be mentally prepared to get married like, in SEPT next year instead of May. Or EVEN LATER. 1 + 2 also means…..

3. I can’t do anything else yet.
We don’t even know our definitive plans. I do want a banquet cos we only get married once in a lifetime (hopefully – okay yes I will make sure, and I am pretty sure that it’s a one off thing with Yang. OKAY!) and I want my parents to not feel like they’re just “giving” their daughter away. Though I disappear from my own home too often anyway. And that brings us to…

4. The banquet is sibeh expensive.
Imagine $1k at least, for 1 table.
400 guests between the two of us means 40 tables, or 40 grand. S$40,000!!!! Know how that happened?
On our guestlist (thats the only thing we did before we even got engaged) are the names of ENTIRE families. I can’t help it. The sheep and I are too sociable. I’ve been trying to cut down a whole LOT already!!!!!! That’s not even including our clients okay. There is the issue of who to invite, who not to invite, and then the morning issue of….

5. Who am I asking to be my sisters?
*throws hands up in the air at this point of time*
I seriously have no idea yet. I did a small headcount and that’s about 10-12 people i’d really want around.
Of course, the list would be lesser once we deduct those that are of the wrong/clashing year after calculations. But still, I really don’t want anyone to take offense as to why I didn’t invite them to be my sisters BLAH BLAH BLAH…. and then there’s the issue of dresses to settle, how many brothers to go with how many sisters, etc etc… urgh. I don’t even want to think about this for now.

6. Wedding Bands
The sheep doesn’t want a wedding band, and I would understand why because I too have not much love for a wedding band or ring that isn’t quite too unique. He bought me the Bvlgari wedding band as the proposal ring so I thought that would solve half the problem. But noooooooooo……. he hates all the rings from Bvlgari. HOW TO BUY ANYTHING LIKE THAT?! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. And I thought I had it all planned out swee swee!

7. ROM+Holiday or ROM+Banquet?
With all the money we’re gonna spend on the banquet alone, and various issues I cannot explain here for obvious reasons, we were very much tempted to just ROM and blow the intended money a holiday. This is in consideration which would take away problems 2,3,4,5 and it’s quite likely we’ll end up finding rings and rubbish we’ll like for 6. But there’s the next issue.

8. Parents
Our parents have yet to meet each other. *fidgets* THIS is SERIOUS shit.
I really hope nothing goes wrong. Our parents (both sides) are extremely interesting people.

That pretty much sums up all our problems and explains our situation. If 1. isn’t fixed, then 2-7 CANNOT be carried out. And if 8 turns out bad, we will probably have a lot of problems to fix for the rest of our lives.

And I just told my grandma today.
“Hurry up and get the book and dates so that you can be a great grandma lah!”

For now, *buries self in work*. : p